You noticed something. You can't quite name it yet. But you are not wrong.
He has a playbook. He has had years to perfect it. You found out recently.
This book gives you one too.
What this book is
Coercive control abusers are tacticians. They plan. They study their targets. Many of them have had years — sometimes multiple relationships — to refine and perfect their methods.
You found out recently. You are behind. And love — however fierce and however faithful — expressed in its natural forms, is something he has already prepared for. What he has not prepared for is a support person who is equally tactical. Who has done her own preparation, and who is no longer moving through this blind.