MISSION
Help for the people who help someone they love.
EXPERTISE
Your relationship to your loved one makes you the expert on them. Our work as researchers, coaches, and survivors gives us experience in coercive control. Together, we will help you understand what you are seeing, choose responses you can stand behind, and protect your own wellbeing while you do.
Not sure what to say or do next? Just ask us.
Tactical Love brings together the book, the resource library, and a place to ask your specific question. Submit an online enquiry and our team — grounded in research and lived experience — will respond with clear direction for your situation.
Send us your question
Why this work matters:
One in three women and one in four men will experience coercive control or intimate partner violence in their lifetime. The people standing beside them often go without any roadmap at all. We exist to change that.
IN THEIR WORDS
Support persons who found their footing.
Coaching clients and readers share what changed for them.
"Sending in an enquiry gave me language for what I was watching happen. I finally knew how to stay close without losing myself."
Renee M.
Sister of a survivor, received guidance through an enquiry
"The Field Guide named patterns I had felt for years but never had words for. It changed how I show up for my best friend."
David K.
Friend, reader of the Field Guide
"As a therapist, this framework filled a real gap in how I support clients' families. I recommend it constantly now."
Priya S.
Licensed therapist, received guidance through an enquiry
FROM THE LIBRARY
Tools made for the long road.
A starting set of resources curated for the questions support persons most often ask us. Browse the full library to go deeper.
QUESTIONS PEOPLE ARRIVE WITH
Questions people arrive with
The ones most people are too exhausted to ask out loud
Have a question that is not here? Send it to support@tacticallovehq.com — we read every one.
STAY CLOSE
Quiet, useful notes for support persons.
Once a month, a short letter with one new idea, one new resource, and a reminder that you are not doing this alone.